This month marks a very special occasion – Mr. Old Man Mase and I are celebrating our second wedding anniversary! We owe our fabulous marriage to the love and dedication we have for one another. A time like this calls for gratitude and reflection. Two years ago, we embarked on the journey of a lifetime. Both recent college grads, we assumed we were ready for it all. Of course, when it comes to academics, we’ve always thrived, but you can’t always find solutions to real world problems in a textbook. It was also two years ago that we decided to abandon Facebook – for good.
We opted to permanently deactivate our accounts during our first week of real adulthood, right after graduation. Because of this single move, I lost my connection to the rest of the world. I also lost contact with 123456789 “friends.” I am the last one to find out about juicy gossip (if at all). I have no idea what’s going on in the news. I don’t know about your latest job promotion, or about your new car. Probably the funniest of them all – I didn’t make it to your birthday bash because I didn’t get the Facebook invite.
We have, however, tackled some pretty pivotal financial accomplishments since parting ways with Facebook. In chronological order: We paid off our student loans and credit cards entirely. Saved an emergency fund. Bought our first condo. Cash flowed our wedding reception. Paid off 40% of said condo.
How in the world did two recent grads accomplish all this? Our income, although we are very blessed, wouldn’t leave you flabbergasted. The answer lies in self-control, which is much easier to exercise when you’re not on Facebook. You see, Facebook provides a platform for people to showcase (and often times exaggerate) the very best of themselves. And well, let’s face it – our reality will almost always pale in comparison to everybody else’s fantasies. In order words, Facebook enhances our need to “keep up with the Joneses.” You’re constantly aware of how much fun other people seem to be having, and all the shiny new things they have. So you feel like you need to upgrade your life, which often leads to impulse purchases. Don’t get me wrong, Mr. Old Man Mase and I live very colorful lives – we’ve cash flowed several vacations, go out to eat, and do plenty of giving, all while making smart choices for the future. There are however, some things we simply go without – we live without cable, and have very basic cell service. Not having a Facebook account makes this much easier to do, because we spend our money on things we WANT, not things we feel we should have and/or do to stay in the loop.
Our finances aren’t jeopardized by the latest trends and whims on Facebook. And because we don’t dedicate precious time to mindless Facebook surfing, we have time to cook from scratch, read, and even get some errands taken care of after we get home from our demanding corporate jobs. Quite possibly the best benefit of all, we’ve been able to meaningfully interact with our handful of lifelong friends, because we’re not blinded by the Facebook fog that makes everyone think they’re friends with everyone.
Happy Anniversary to us! And may we continue to spend our resources: time, money, and energy wisely.